Love

Kevin Lomax: What about love?

John Milton: Overrated. Biochemically no different than eating large quantities of chocolate.

• John Milton, played by Al Pacino, The Devil’s Advocate

If you meet somebody and you’re almost becoming a bit obsessed, you’re kind of thinking about them all the time, waiting for their next message, dying to see them again, and just constantly checking on them, we as human beings tend to label that as we must be in love. But the reality is, that kind of behavior is signaling that they are either triggering your anxieties in a way that it leaves you insecure and worried, or you have a fear of abandonment. You have a fear that this relationship is not going to work - because you’ve experienced abandonment before, and therefore you’re becoming overly clingy, just to kind of keep that person in your life. That is not a measure of love. That is actually a measure of chaos. What you want to do instead; how you want to measure that you love someone and their right for you is how much they soothe your anxieties, how much do they bring you peace, calm and safety when you’re with them - Sadia Khan